Monday, 22 October 2007

Candidate # 12 - Mark (II)

The more we get to know Mark the happier we feel about having him as our sperm donor. He has a mature attitude towards life and has great faith in our parenting ability. He seems truly committed to our cause and whilst he's firm in his beliefs, he's not at all over-powering, which is just what we need.

"But surely anybody could seem pleasant after only a few weeks." I hear you think, but our first impressions are not all we have to work with. Because Mark is friends with Sarah's brother, we've been able to confirm our good feeling about him by getting opinions from mutual friends. Everyone we've spoken to seems to regard him very highly.

The example that everyone brings up when singing Mark's praises is his relationship with his sister Kim. Their mentally unstable mother walked out them shortly after Kim was born and they were raised by their father who was sadly diagnosed with cancer when Mark was nineteen. Mark suspended his university course to nurse his father and when he tragically died six months later, Mark dropped out of college to look after Kim, then 14.

Not everybody would have sacrificed their own happiness in order to prevent their sister from going into care, particularly not someone as young as Mark was when he made the commitment. He does truly sound like a fantastic person.

Let's just hope that Annie is as understanding as Mark. I can't imagine that she'd be unpleasant, otherwise what would such a grounded person see in her?

Friday, 28 September 2007

Candidate # 12 - Mark

Could we have found Mr. Right? Sarah and I have recently built a friendship with one of Sarah's brother's friends, Mark*. He's healthy, 32 and very interested in donating sperm. He has asked that, for now, we don't include too much information about him online as he still needs to discuss the situation with his girlfriend, Annie*. They haven't been together for long but obviously if Mark does donate sperm, it could have an impact on their relationship if they're still together when the baby is born so we need her blessing before we can go ahead. The fact that Annie is currently in the US for six weeks means that we have plenty of time to get to know Mark better before the process can begin. We're just trying not to get our hopes up until we know for certain how Annie will react.

*As with all the posts, names have been changed.

Monday, 17 September 2007

A website designed for people like us

Co-Parent match is a website that helps people to find suitable donors and co-parents. Naturally, we decided to take a look.

After signing up (which was pretty straight forward) we were taken to a search screen where we input whether we were single or a couple, our sexuality and type of person (or couple) that we're looking for. We were also given the option to restrict our search to a chosen location. Unfortunately we couldn't get the search to display any results.

However this was not due to an absence of users. Even though the site was only launched this August, there do seem to be around 150 profiles already. There are users who, like us, are lesbian couples searching for an active donor but also a wide variety of other set-ups, for example men wishing to donate, heterosexual couples looking for donors and single bisexual women looking for active co-parents.

With a section for us to enter a very detailed user profile, it does appear that this could be the site for us. Whilst our experiences with Scott have somewhat deterred us from meeting random internet users, members of this site are certainly more likely to be serious about parenting.

The site also specialises in selling insemination kits and home pregnancy tests, and provides vital health information for anyone considering home insemination.