Wednesday, 18 July 2007

Candidate # 3 - Our Mate 'Big Brian'

We've only known Big Brian for ten months but we've become really good friends in that short period of time. Brian is a 45 year old man and who's really keen to have biological children but probably won't due to being gay. He's a decent bloke with quite a lot of money which he's willing to give us in child support. However, we do not want financial support from a donor. We want our child to be our child and that includes providing for him or her ourselves.

Although Brian says he understands that Sarah and I would be the baby's parents, we just get the feeling that Brian's determination to have a child of his own is so powerful that he would end up wanting more involvement than we're happy to allow. We feel bad for Brian because we of all people understand how it feels to desperately want children but at the end of the day, we have to think about what's best for us and what's best for our child and we want to avoid foreseeable parental conflicts.

Pros: willing and able; really wants kids.
Cons: was a 10 stone baby; could be a backseat parent.

Verdict: Unsuitable

1 comment:

Me said...

"we have to think about what's best for our child"

I'd say it's about time you did. Talk about selfish!